5 Ways to deal with heartbreak during Covid-19

Implement these into your life to work on acceptance of events, improving your understanding to prevent the same mistakes, overall improve your mental and physical health.

So, let’s say typically you would go out and party with your friends, like the rom-com movie, hoping to ignore the pain and enjoy that night out with your friends. But, now in the midst of Covid, you’re dealing with a breakup, can’t see your friends, and stuck with your thoughts by yourself. I’m here to tell you, it’s not that bad to be single right now and how to deal with those emotions. These are the 5 simple insights to deal with heartbreak.

1.List everything you liked and disliked about your ex-partner.

Like the cons and pros list. Now, I know that sounds crazy but hear me out. It’s good to appreciate the lovely memories you shared ( pros ) but it’s also good to remember the bad memories and why you didn’t see eye to eye ( cons ). Remember when writing this list, to be honest, and truthful to the real events that occurred during the relationship. We tend to over glamourize the good moments in the period of the breakup because we miss them. But truly view them for how they were during the relationship. Don’t focus on the puppy stage, view all the stages.

The point of this list has a greater purpose and meaning behind it. To appreciate your ex and the time you had together, to understand why it didn’t work out, and to ultimately build on yourself. Being the best version of you, gaining an understanding of what it is that you want in a partner in the future and most importantly, the list is to help you let go. I am always grateful for all my relationships. The great and the extremely bad because I have grown from each experience. I don’t let the bad experiences hold me back in my next relationship but yet allow them, to evolve me into a more confident woman, with greater insights into what I need and want.

You may keep this list and review it again in the moments you are feeling low and missing your ex-relationship. Simply to remind yourself, why you truly broke up. Or you can do what I did. I said, “Thank you for everything” and I let the list go… in my backyard fire-pit. It was a very significate and freeing moment. You can let go and release your list in any way you want.

2. Learn about astrology.

Honestly, we all know the moon has effects on the waves, tides, and plants growing faster on a full moon cycle. The planets can affect weather changes, climate, and life forms. So why is it so hard to believe that in certain cycles of the year that you are born, that astrology has an effect on you?

Personally, I know who I am, how I behave, and what I like, and dislike in life. So, when I broke up with this guy, that I had been seeing for 2 months. He had the worst things to say about me and I was shocked. I made the decision to not continue the relationship because I noticed we didn’t see eye to eye on a lot of things and to be honest, he’s a great guy but I truly felt we just weren’t bringing the best out of each other. One day, I was talking to my mum about it and she asked, “well, what star sign is he?” It turns out we were the lease compatible star signs. It made so much sense when I read his star sign characteristics and mine. It was definitely a mind-blown moment.

That’s why learn about astrology is number two. Look into your astrology zodiac sign and learn about yourself. Then look into your compatible star signs. You will understand and appreciate that your ex-relationship (that hurts so bad right now), wasn’t meant to be for a high purpose reason and you are on the path you are meant to be on. You can take this knowledge into consideration for your potential future partner as well.

I personally felt learning more about my star sign, brought me a greater understanding of who I am, and allowed me to stop seeing people at such a surface level. I started to be able to build deeper true connections with people.

3. Dance & Move

I’ am far from coordinated myself and if you’re like me and you hate the gym. Dancing is the next best thing. I would normally recommend the hike or trail because the fresh air and green environment is so good for your soul. But, were in our homes during covid or you don’t want to be out and about yet.

We all know music can impact your moods and uplift you. I’ve read self-help books where they state “Just laugh, fake it till you make it. Force the laugher”.

But that’s hard to do when your deeply sad over a breakup and you feel alone. So, moving your body can really help. People that are depressed don’t move much. If you don’t move, you can easily prial downwards further. Some Clinically diagnosed, state their number 1 tip to beat depression, was to get up! Just get up and move. Easier to say, than do but here's a tip.

To help boost yourself you can do a silly dance. But what I recommend is finding a fun dance along video challenge. Trying to come up with your own dance moves can be extremely hard at times. Especially for those that don’t know how to dance, lack the creative intuition, or are just feeling really low. Simply, follow a video challenge online. This is going to boost your mood, make you laugh, and get you going. You literally have nothing to lose! Best case scenario you learn some new moves, have a laugh, get a sweat on, and work on your mind, body, and spirit un subconsciously.

4. Positive Affirmations.

Ok, don’t roll your eyes. I’m not selling you the secrets to riches and wealth. I’m simply saying that words have power. I know if someone tells me; “Wow, you’re beautiful”. -I’ll feel good.

If I tell myself; “You can’t eat that because your fat”. -I’ll feel sad and hurt.

If I tell my nephew; “Wow your so brave” !! -He’ll feel on top of the world.

Words have great power over us. So why not use them for good. Our brains automatically take in so much information and our senses react to everything. A smell, good or bad. Taste, good or bad. Loud Sounds, good or bad. Conversations with anyone, good or bad. We internally speak to ourselves about all the senses without any effort at all. Ask yourself, how many negative thoughts am I having daily? How many positive things have I said today or about myself?

You’ll notice if you pay attention, the negative or the complaining can overflood compared to the odd positive comment. Start consciously saying more positive comments/statements. As you feel yourself about to complain, gossip, or react. Simply, seek the positives in the situation. This can turn around your whole day or experience. It may feel forced or fake at first but believe me, it works. You start to generate happier positive un-subconscious thoughts. You have accidentally trained your brain to complain because everyone seems to do it. Just be aware of those thoughts coming in and stop them in their tracks.

Wake up and say “it’s going to be a beautiful day”. When you brush your hair in the mirror say something lovely about yourself. Before you go to bed, say what you are grateful for in your life. Don’t forget, just like the morning sun you will rise and continue to shine.

Here are 4 great affirmations, to say in the morning, throughout the day, or right before bed. Any time you want really.

It’s going to be a beautiful day with so many possibilities!

I’am increasing my porosity every day.

I’am attracting good things into my life.

I’am improving every day and I love the person I am becoming.

5. Get creative!

Creativity comes in many different forms. Whether that is baking in the kitchen or discovering your painting skills or working on your eye blending and contour make-up. I’ve seen these make-up tutorials and honestly, that is art! Have fun with fashion and being creative on new trends.

Being creative is not only a great way to express yourself and build your confidence but also to channel your energy into something that is calming. It is rewarding during the process and afterward. Simply, paint what comes to mind or plan your paint design. Attempt the make-up tutorials and have a laugh at your wing eyeliner. Enjoy making content and showing your creative side.

Inspire someone else that just like you at some point needed some inspiration and love. Work on those skills, and get ready for covid to ease up on restrictions or even just for that catch-up chat with a friend. I personally, work on my creativity by looking at fashion inspiration. I’ll order clothing online, play with clothing and styles. I boost my confidence by interacting with like-minded people on these fashion sites. Being connected to people that enjoy fashion in its true creative form, is such a rewarding feeling.

We have said good-bye to the ex-relationship on the list, we researched into ourselves and why we are so divine, understanding that the world is bigger than that relationship and things happen for greater reasons. We got out of bed, stopped dwelling, and started dancing. Which released endorphins and burnt calories. We then worked on actively being aware of our minds and making sure we are not sabotaging ourselves with negative blocks on our road to happiness. Then we worked on our creativity to be balanced doing something that brings us joy. Creating yummy cookies or dog treats or working on your hairstyling skills from tutorials or figuring out the new fashion trends and enjoying that re-vamping of confidence. Allowing your new beautiful inner peace and confidence to radiant from the outside too.

Author: Sunshine Zandt

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